The first step in creating massive change in your life is not actually believing that it's possible, it's being willing to see if it is possible.
You are not going to be able to jump from being a complete sceptic to a wholehearted believer. The step between those is just being open to seeing what could be possible.
The point is that you're willing to see if it’s possible... that's what will change your life.
Here are 4 keys to helping you along this journey:
1. Give yourself permission to be successful.
Instead of regurgitating the same old narrative of believing you'll be happy once you're 10 pounds, one promotion and two life events down-the-line, work on changing your inner monologue to: "I allow my life to be good."
Give yourself permission to be happy and successful, and not feel guilty about it. If you have a subconscious association between success being amoral, or corrupt, of course you're not going to do what you need to do to live the life you want to live. Instead, give yourself permission to step into a whole, happy, healthy, grounded, and meaningful existence.
2. Don't allow other people's fears to cast shadows of doubt.
The way people respond to news of your success will tell you how they are really doing in their lives.
If you announce your engagement, people who are in happy marriages will be elated for you. People who are in unhappy marriages will warn you that it is difficult and that you should enjoy your remaining time as "single" individuals.
The point is that other people's fears are projections of their own situations. They have nothing to do with what you are or aren't capable of.
3.Speak your success as a present fact, not a future plan.
Though you shouldn't say things like "I drive a convertible," or "I am a CEO," if they are not in fact true, do start speaking about what it is you want out of life not in the context that you will one day pursue it, but that you are already living it.
Instead of saying: "I hope to do that one day," say, "I am strategizing how to do that now." Instead of thinking: "I will be happy when I am in a different place in my life," think, "I am completely capable of being happy right here and right now, nothing is holding me back." The subconscious mind understands the “now” and will work on attracting it to you.
4. Create a vision space.
Being able to imagine what it is you want out of your life is absolutely essential for creating it, because if you don't know where you're going, you won't know which way to turn first.
Once you have a crystal-clear image in your mind for what it is you want and how it is you want to live, you are then capable of beginning to enact and create it. If you are still hazy or torn between what you want, you will be rendered incapable of taking real, meaningful action toward anything.
Whether you use a Pinterest board, blog, notebook, or board, put together words and images that represent what you want and how you want to live.